Watching for Red Flags: What is a Spiritual Advisor’s Role?

Question for Alana: I need some guidance.

I have spoken to a spiritual guide over the phone who tells me that I will have deceit occur but not on a relationship level.

She stated that I am an old soul who is meant to have a hard life and she feels that I do not want to hear this. Of course I don’t.

I told her I had a difficult childhood and she said that she has had a difficult life! This is what life is about.

I am meant to have a one-on-one reading with her tomorrow and she says I will need a box of tissues. What should I do?

Help, please. I have felt very odd since speaking to this person on the phone. I feel very anxious because I suffer from anxiety.

Alana’s Answer: Greetings dear one, and thank you for offering your question and the sharing of your concerns.

Almost everyone has times in their lives where seeking an outside guide can help us sort through our confusions. Seeking council can be very wise at times when it is difficult to feel grounded and centered, or when facing important decisions.

It is also very wise to select that council based on their ability to empower through heartfelt awareness. All to often an advisors’ facade presents the illusion that they have greater insights into the life of another.

Trusting Gut Level Feelings

You experienced an odd feeling after talking with this person, and rightly so.

Your gut level feelings, which are connected to your intuition, are trying to tell you something. Sometimes our intuition speaks softly and then when we don’t realize or understand, our intuition this gentle voice or feeling has to learn how to speak louder. This escalation can move our body senses from feeling odd to feeling quite anxious.

So dear one, trust your feelings because they are within you to point you to what you value and what is truly important to your heart.

A previous questioner was feeling uneasy about visiting a Tarot card reader … one insight that was shared is:

The spiritual advisors’ purpose is not to tell you what to do, make judgments of you, or decide for you. It is really about facilitating you to follow your own heart.

(Please click the link above and read the full question and answer to understand the context of the definition.)

From the little bit you shared about the spiritual guide you spoke to on the phone it is apparent that this advisors’ guidance is presented through filters that are not the clearest or most helpful.

Alana will try to explain.

Watching for Red Flags

You have heard the term, “red flag,” yes…used as a signal to be on alert? In your statement above there are a few red flags.

The guide’s comment that you will have deceit occur is the first red flag and let Alana explain why.

You see, a spiritual guide who speaks from the heart would never predict an outcome of another. For we all have potentials, possibilities, and probabilities, depending on how much vested energy we have spun from our various levels of being.

We live in a world with many souls and situations surrounding us, so there is always a possibility that we may experience deception, just as there is always a possibility that we may experience support and encouragement. It is our own perspective and attachments that move possibilities into potential outcomes, or probabilities.

The clearer we become in our hearts while trusting in our innate power to turn toward that which we choose to create the less likely we will encounter an event or circumstance that leaves us without the wisdom and knowledge to be aware in any given moment. Even if in that moment we are surrounded by what our mind may judge as a negative outcome.

What is the Most Useful Story?

What this means is that focusing on deception as a probability invites it to become our story. We make up stories all the time, but you must ask … “Is this story useful?” Was you guide’s suggestion the most useful suggestion that could have been made to you? A guides’ role is to support you in determining what is your most useful story.

The next red flag is the comment that living life is meant to be hard. Again, that is a story, or a meme that many collectively have agreed upon. This is the definition of a meme:

An element of a culture or system of behavior that may be considered to be passed from one individual to another by nongenetic means.

A meme is a passed on belief. And beliefs can become mantras. You may want to ask yourself if that declaration is the most useful belief to have. I think not.

Humanity does often learn by contrast, yes … but is that a law of the universe, or a secret code inscribed to the living? No … life can be filled with bliss as soon as a distinction is made to what bliss is!

Also, often you here the term … “Well it’s my Karma.” Again, karma is a type of measurement of cause and effect when attachment and duality are present. It is not a universal truth.

Otherwise, bad things would never happen to good people, nor would good things happen to bad people. What happens in our lives has a direct relationship to our multi-dimensionalities, desired experiences and the amount of attention and intention we fuel with our mind/heart connection. You are a creator of your life and have vast unrealized powers.

Intuitive Listening

Lastly, Alana would like to suggest that you take some time to explore your own intuitive knowing. The body is a wonderful gauge for sensing our intuition.

Have you ever felt an urge to call someone on the phone only to find they were just thinking about you? When you asked, “Why did I call at that moment?” the answer you most likely received is that you “just” felt like you needed to.

So begin to trust your feelings. Begin to learn more how your intuitive senses move within you. Developing one’s intuition is just like experiencing exercise; the more you do it the better at it and stronger you become.

A guess would be that the anxiety you sometimes feel, and the odd sensation you had are signals that you have a grand intuitive resource within that is just waiting to guide you! Anxiousness can at times be our nature wanting us to pay attention to the wisdom of our inner knowing.

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