Healing Dysfunctional Relationship Patterns


Question: I have been divorced for 6 years. Married to an alcoholic, dated a reformed alcoholic. I have been on a spiritual quest and am an energy healer. Will I meet someone of like mind that I can adore and love? Is the gentlemen I have met recently who lives in another city a potentially good mate for me? Intellectually we are. He is getting over a divorce and still hurting and it's been almost two years for him. Any help would be appreciated.

Answer: Hello, dear one! Thank you for your question. Well, Alana wishes to congratulate you because Alana feels that, day by day, you are learning more about how to discern what brings joy into your life. Day by day, you are taking steps to turn towards that which fills your life with delight, and it feels that you are eliminating those things that feel like struggle, confusion, and lack richness and fullness for you.

Relationships are interesting and the dynamics between individuals that have dependency, like alcoholic relationships, do teach us much. But, dependent relationships also teaches us what we do want as much as they teach us what we don't want once we break out of the dysfunctional pratter and gain more conscious awareness. I won't go into the details of what it means to be in an alcoholic relationship because your intent is to view current potenial and future possibilities.

Alana feels that by turning more energy toward your healing skills and continuing to devote time to learning and expanding them, it lightens your vibration as well and brings more light into you. As you become this light, then it makes it easier for your soul mate vibrations to find you. So, the more that you can authentically move into what you feel you discern is your highest and best expression, then the easier it will be for partnerships to find you.

It feels that your friend that is at a distance is like a trial run in communicating and learning how to have healthy conversing. Alana feels that it is a step on the path. Continue to relate back and forth. See what develops. When we begin a relationship at a distance it helps us take things much slower, which can be ideal when we are also healing old patterns.

There are many possibilities out there for you. The more that you become your authentic vibration by discerning what brings you joy, then turning towards it, honoring it, embracing it, and expressing it the lighter you will become; and the more ease will occur. Yes, Alana sees love for you. Continue to love yourself and someone will step up to you wish to honor you and love you as well.

Thank you, dear one, for your question.

--Alana